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It all started with a smile 😊

The day I walked into Ale House and met my now boyfriend was the beginning of my coming out to my family. Did I know it would be? I did not. I didn’t even think I would be in a relationship with him at that moment.

Up until then I was sneaking around with the gay crowd at night clubs, bars, and some small pride events. But I was not out to my parents or many friends outside of that crowd. A few months later I remember posting a picture of a friend and I at a pride event on Instagram that my dad saw. He texted me almost instantaneously 😊 He wasn’t angry, more confused or well not confused. He just wanted to hear me say it I think.

A few weeks later my cousin who I snapped told my nanny that Chaz is moving in with some guy. It was more than that, but that translated to my mom somewhere along the lines of “Chaz is dating some black boy and living with him.” My mama texted me questioning me and I clarified first some misunderstandings, but I also responded with,”Yes. That means I’m gay mom. I love you.”

Surprisingly her and my step dad seemed fine with it. They welcome me more than before(maybe because they knew I was gay). They even welcomed him. Now I’m opening my kissing him in public, walking holding hands, etc. I just don’t care anymore. I don’t look to cause trouble. I just don’t care.

I SAY ALL THIS BECAUSE a few years ago I had a few hookups with a guy whom I really really liked in my hometown of Easley, SC. I felt like we connected each time. His heart was so soft it seemed. I adored him. But after a few times he asked me to hang out in public. He was doing makeup and stuff around that time. I was just simply not ready for it yet. This upset him and made him hate my guts. He thought I was this horrible shitty person. Maybe I was 🤷🏼‍♂️ It was more on me. I wasn’t that comfortable. He soon took a ton of public torment after that as he went to prom doing his thing. I strongly applaud him for it, but my heart also hurt for him.

But all in all, BE YOURSELF! The world will catch on. There will be people who hurt you because of it. There will be people who accept & love you because of it. There will be people who JUST DON’T CARE. Truth is that will happen to you no matter if you’re gay, white, bi, black, trans, asian, straight, fat, skinny……people will always hurt you, accept you, love you, ignore you. JUST BE YOURSELF.

Be yourself. Love yourself. Accept yourself.

Gay Pride: What Is It?

What is Gay Pride?

Gay pride events, including gay pride parades and festivals were started in major urban centers to improve the visibility, acceptance and legal protections for LGBTQ+ people living in those communities. While the aim of pride day started with a political nature, many cities around the world have such wide acceptance and legal protections that many events have become a celebration of pride for the local LGBTQ+ community. Depending on the country or city where the event is being held, the marches and parades often campaign for recognition and acceptance of same-sex marriage, legal protections for couples and families, anti-discrimination laws or trans rights. Although there are still obstacles in achieving full acceptance and protections for the LGBTQ+ community, the progress made just over the past few decades has been significant.

A Brief History of Gay Pride

In June of 1969, a group of LGBTQ+ people in New York City rioted following a police raid of the Stonewall Inn, a gay bar located on Christopher Street in Greenwich Village. This series of events was a turning point for the LGBTQ+ community and marks one of the most significant events leading to the modern gay rights movement. The following year in June, organized demonstrations took place in New York City, Los Angeles and San Francisco to mark the one-year anniversary of the Stonewall Riots. As the years went on, additional cities in North America and Europe began to hold their own public demonstrations or pride day, eventually leading to what we know today as a gay pride parade, march, celebration or festival.

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My Coming Out Story

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That’s exactly what I’m telling you and what every other LGBTQ person is telling you. Simple, love is too beautiful to be hidden in a closet. And love should never mean having to live in fear.

  • Roughly 73% of LGBTQ say they’re more open online than in person.
  • Roughly 42% of LGBTQ say their living community isn’t accepting of them.

Those are two recent study statistics done by a national human rights group. Those basically list the majority of LGBTQ people being more open online than around their family, friends, etc. and it list around half of LGBTQ not feeling safe in their community. The 2nd stat above is a foundation that leads to the 1st stat. FEAR is a huge factor in our coming out story and something inside us longs to come out to the world. That is why the 1st stat shows close to 100%!!!

If you’re in the closet fully or partially, please listen closely to this. Your happiness is in your hands. The single best thing about coming out is that nobody can insult you by telling you what you just told them. Also coming out becomes a process. Yes, you could make a big social media post and announce it at the family dinner tonight. That’ll cover most your grounds, but as you live life it’ll be a constant coming out story. As you graduate school, find a job, work the job, go to social events, etc. you’ll be meeting new people who you will build some type of relationship with. Do you have to tell them: I’m gay, bi, trans…? No. Should you? That’s not my choice to say because every situation is different. What I can say, is that me telling people I’m gay has not hurt me as I once thought it would.

My first coming out hearers was my ex fiancé, a few old friends, and that’s it. Do I have any contact with those people anymore? I do not. Do I regret telling them? I do not. Those relationships were great while they lasted and I have moved onto different parts of my life, just as they have as well. After I told them, I didn’t tell anyone else for 2 or 3 years. I was 25-26 at the time and I was floating around carefully but aggressively on the old GRINDR world. Not going to lie. I was a little bit of a hoe(a picky hoe) but a hoe. Somewhere around 26 years old a GRINDR friend started inviting me out to gay social crowds; places I had never been and wasn’t fond of going to for many reasons. It took a little while for me to grow accustom to these crowds because the settings weren’t in my comfort zone nor were the people. Not going to lie.

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In these next few months I met some of the most loving, petty, kind, loyal, gossipy, unique friends I’ve ever had. Yes, the gay community is full of people who fit all of those in one person. But it’s okay. I love my straight friends, but the gay friends I have now I have come to love so so so much. It’s because I can be myself around them without worrying. During this time I actually sort of accidentally came out to all 4 of my parents. My dad saw an INSTAGRAM post with me supporting a BI friend I worked with at a BLACK PRIDE EVENT and he assumed because I was there that I was in fact GAY. He guessed correct as I told him through our text messages. My mother on the other hand texted me about me living with this boy(in which I wasn’t living with)… don’t you love family gossip? Having already told my dad and step mom I was tired of “hiding” it and told my mom, “Yes, I’m gay mom. Love you.” For a few weeks after these I didn’t talk to either mom or dad and I was kind of scared to. I wasn’t scared as much as I didn’t know how to handle it with both of them growing me up with a strong Christian foundation. Surprisingly my next meeting with dad went normal and my next meeting with mom & step dad(with the bf guy) went extremely well.

Life lesson learned: Some people will abandon you. Some people will stay with you. Some people will join you. But life will go on.

It sounds so simple, “BUT LIFE WILL GO ON.” Those of you hearing that who received way more hate or backlash than I have are probably thinking ‘that’s so ignorant of him to say.’ But I stand by that statement. Part of being a minority involves persevering with your head up no matter what. The family that will support you(the LGBTQ family) is bigger than you think and it’s constantly growing.

I’m going to end this post before it gets way too long, but I hope my short story does something for you. I will periodically share little tid bits of my story as it progresses if you want to subscribe and hear them. Also I want this blog to always be focused on helping the LGBTQ community learn, help, love, grow in any way possible. So if you can, please share this everywhere you can and remember to comment or message me personally to share your story or input.


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Hopeful Senator Abuses LGBTQ

“Noted homophobe and accused pedophile Roy Moore has put his Ten Commandments monument on display once more.”

In case you’ve never heard of Roy Moore here you go…

Roy Moore lost his position as chief justice of the Alabama Supreme Court in 2003 because he refused to remove the monument from the state courthouse, a violation of the separation of church and state. He was placed back in a power position in 2012 to be shortly removed for an ethics violation. The same guy who continues to call out immorality and LGBTQ 🏳️‍🌈 groups for “ruining the nation” loses his position of power for ethics issues. If you want to know more go google his name.

Simply Moore needs to retire. Leave politics and the future of this nation to someone else; someone who cares. It’s understandable that he grew up in a totally different time. But it’s not okay that he isn’t willing to grow, adapt, and meet in the middle.

So, the main purpose of the article: WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK ABOUT THIS ISSUE? Should he be allowed back in power? What does him being in power mean for our justice system, human rights, and freedom?

The worse thing is that there’s more people like him still making decisions for this nation. That means decisions that strongly affect the minorities in the LGBTQ family.

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Gay Man’s Organ Donation Denied

Late metal drummer wanted to donate his organs after his death. The government says he can’t, because he’s gay.

Check out the original story here and come back:
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The question I am pondering here is: “What does Sean Reinert being gay have anything to do with him being able to save another humans life by donating an organ?”

“The government would rather let people waiting for a transplant die than give them one of Seans organs. As his husband it makes me sick to my stomach and incredibly angry,” said Reinert’s husband. He has a valid point. A very valid point. If the man shows no signs and the test show he’s negative on all counts, then what is the harm? It’s just like a criminal investigation; where there’s no evidence and everything points to innocence, then they person walks away. No harm.

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The Purpose

Hey there 👋 To whomever is reading this I hope there’s a smile on your face; a real smile. Life can hard, difficult, sad. Life can turn upward, happy, easy. I am a 27 year old gay man who wants to share his story and also help others. This blog’s purpose will be to help others.

Sometimes you’ll hear a story. Sometimes you’ll hear news. Sometimes you’ll hear a question. Through storytelling, conversation, and updates I expect to reach you guys and also to get you to reach back. Please if you end up being a follower of my blog: BE OPEN, BE RESPONSIVE, BE LOVED.

I’m going to end to keep this short and not bore anyone 👻 Reach out to me if you would like and subscribe ❤️🏳️‍🌈👌🏼

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